Wednesday, January 2, 2008

6 PEOPLE WHO’VE INFLUENCED ME IN 2007

there are a kazillion people who’ve influenced me in 2007. i thought i’d point out just a couple.

6. you - if you are reading this i consider you to be a friend of some sort. at least a person i trust enough to get inside of my head. you have listened to me rant about silly things and you have put up with my mildly amusing and pointless stories. some of you are actual family and others of you i have never met. but your comments and letters and phone calls all have influenced me in one way or the other.

5. mike foster - i became familiar with mike and his crazy ridiculous quest for honesty and authenticity when he co-founded xxxchurch.com many moons ago. both of our lives have gone through some big changes and i’m happy we’ve re-connected this year. his thoughts inspire me to be a better person.

4. my sisters - i was forced to become a man far quicker than i should have. i can honestly say i didn't it the right way but i at least tried to be an influential male influence to my sisters after my parents separated (maybe even before that). for reason i don't have time to disclose here, i isolated myself from them for far too long and this year i finally felt like i re-connected with them. the both showed me the old saying "blood is thicker than water" holds true. they have always stood up for me and they both have taught me what it is to be true to myself. i love these two women more than anything and this last year they have stood by me through all my crap. because of them my heart is bigger and brighter.

3. dr. carol henry - i'm a staunch believer that everyone should have a therapist. i have been through my fair share of people who want to "fix" what's in my head. i first met dr. henry in May and from our first session i knew she wasn't going to try and fix me. she let me fix myself by helping me to sort out my heart and my head. i will never forget the day i sat in her office and cried and said to her "i've lost something that i can't replace". she gave me small smile and didn't say a word. it was at that very moment that i feel like i began to live my own life.


2. my mother - really it was the final months of 2007 that she influenced me most. my favorite person in the world was my "granny" (her mother). my granny died in 1992 in a tragic automobile accident. i refused to accept her death until september of 2007. once i accepted it, i recognized that my mother stepped in right where my granny left off. like granny, my mother has been through so much but you will never once hear her complain about it. she lives her life for the right now and not in the past and she is the true definition of unconditional love. i am blessed to have such a wonderful mother.

1. my son - Rhys was born October 16, 2006. the few months leading up to 2007 were extremely stressful and rewarding, but it wasn't until 2007 started that the process of him changing my life really began. he is the sole reason i am alive right now. he has taught me how to be a better person for myself and others.