savage lies (a repost)
in honor of valentines i thought i would re-post one of my fav and most controversial blogs from last year
so i was listening to some archived Dan Savage podcasts this morning. one episode was dedicated to allowing his female listener to pass along what they wished they had known when they were 15 years old to the girls out there who actually are 15. most of it was your run-of-the-mill "just because a guy says he loves you, doesn't mean you have to sleep with him" bullshit, but one of his reader's advice caught my attention.
"The outgoing, macho-acting, good-looking guys you're attracted to will treat you like crap. The quiet, nerdy, smart, and bookish guys you are not attracted to will treat you like gold. But you may have to seek and draw them out, as they are usually shy."
while this woman makes a relatively intelligent point, she still failed to add on one important footnote to her comment - "None of this really matters anyway because all of us still prefer to date douchebags, even though we are all now in our mid- to late-20s and we should know better."
i hate stuff like this because it's such bullshit. give this 25-year old1 female, or any other one like her in the country, the choice between a loud, obnoxious asshole and an intelligent, normal guy and she will always take the former. "Hmm, this one reads in his spare time... but this one listens to Nickelback! I like him!" tell the girls the truth, lady - you only say shit like this in order to avoid sounding like a superficial whore. if you actually believed the bullshit coming out of your own mouth, then you wouldn't still be cruising The Library2 for guys instead of looking for them in the actual motherfucking library!1
the saving grace to my rant is i know there are a small percentage of women out there who are the complete opposite of this woman and the women like her. so as the footnote below explains. this isn't a hate filled message directed at the female species - i am for a fact one of the few male feminist out there.
1. i am speaking about a specific type of woman not EVERY woman out there
2. my non-Texas dwelling readers probably won't get this. The Library is an obnoxious trendy bar in Fort Worth. the bar itself is worse than it's non-creative name implies.
so i was listening to some archived Dan Savage podcasts this morning. one episode was dedicated to allowing his female listener to pass along what they wished they had known when they were 15 years old to the girls out there who actually are 15. most of it was your run-of-the-mill "just because a guy says he loves you, doesn't mean you have to sleep with him" bullshit, but one of his reader's advice caught my attention.
"The outgoing, macho-acting, good-looking guys you're attracted to will treat you like crap. The quiet, nerdy, smart, and bookish guys you are not attracted to will treat you like gold. But you may have to seek and draw them out, as they are usually shy."
while this woman makes a relatively intelligent point, she still failed to add on one important footnote to her comment - "None of this really matters anyway because all of us still prefer to date douchebags, even though we are all now in our mid- to late-20s and we should know better."
i hate stuff like this because it's such bullshit. give this 25-year old1 female, or any other one like her in the country, the choice between a loud, obnoxious asshole and an intelligent, normal guy and she will always take the former. "Hmm, this one reads in his spare time... but this one listens to Nickelback! I like him!" tell the girls the truth, lady - you only say shit like this in order to avoid sounding like a superficial whore. if you actually believed the bullshit coming out of your own mouth, then you wouldn't still be cruising The Library2 for guys instead of looking for them in the actual motherfucking library!1
the saving grace to my rant is i know there are a small percentage of women out there who are the complete opposite of this woman and the women like her. so as the footnote below explains. this isn't a hate filled message directed at the female species - i am for a fact one of the few male feminist out there.
1. i am speaking about a specific type of woman not EVERY woman out there
2. my non-Texas dwelling readers probably won't get this. The Library is an obnoxious trendy bar in Fort Worth. the bar itself is worse than it's non-creative name implies.
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